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Chris Wong
Feb 14, 2023
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1. we are almost always teaching people how we want to be interacted with

2. different people have different degrees of awareness re: (1)

3. different people have different degrees of control re: (1)

4. different people have different degrees of awareness about (2) + (3)

— Visa ✈️ NYC (Feb22–Mar13) (@visakanv) December 25, 2020

Khe has his "User Manual" and I think Anne-Laure Le Cunff does too. Visa is saying people have different levels of awareness of how other people interact with them. People also have different ways to influence how other people interact with them. Khe's user manual is like a heavy handed way to influence people. It's like step one in a evolution of process.

But also you treat other people the way you want to be treated. Or, people won't do what you tell them to do, you need to reward them when they do the right thing. It's sorta like what we were talking about with courses, that you need to trojan horse into it.

You think you can teach someone through a course, but first, their minds have to be opened to the possibility. You think you can teach someone how to interact with you, but first they need to want to interact with you in a non-authoritative way.

Also, telling someone how to interact with you makes it harder for people in the future to figure out how to interact with people who don't publicize how to interact with them?

Telling someone how to interact with you is an attempt to control how they interact with you.  How does this mesh with acceptance and allowing?  Is the best way to interact with someone to accept them?  And have them accept you?

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