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Oct 25, 2023·edited Oct 25, 2023Liked by Chris Wong

"Does my unlived life impose a burden on my future self?" - is an interesting question.

"Does my unlived life impose a burden on others?" - is a separate question that's no less interesting (IMO). Maybe this is why so many people feel the need to control others? And not just their own children, but complete strangers.

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> Because I’m worried about never reaching my goals, I’m afraid to do something that may change my priorities?

I guess this sort of implies that failing to reach a goal necessarily implies an "unlived" life? Personally, I'm not sure I accept that.

I guess I come more from the POV that we don't necessarily know what our "true goals" are in life. That a journey towards one goal may just be a step up towards another "truer" goal. A step towards where you're "meant to go" all along. In that sense, abandoning one goal isn't bad at all. Maybe that's why some people like believing in destinies...

Anyway, I'm rambling now, and I don't know if any of that made sense. So, I'm gonna go sleep on it now. 😂

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Does my unlived life impose a burden on others?

>> This assumes that you have influence on others. If they're your children, that's a reasonable assumption. Can someone control you if you don't let them? Yes, but a lot of the time you are the person that gives that person control over you. I suppose another question is, "Why do we allow people who have unexamined lives to have undue influence?"

I guess I come more from the POV that we don't necessarily know what our "true goals" are in life.

>> I agree with you. But people who don't have this viewpoint would be affected by the goals that they set that they don't reach. I think most people are goal oriented.

I just mistyped "goal" as "gaol" and I remembered that gaol is the old way of writing jail...

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